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{Guest Blog Post} Eliminating Stress as You Plan Your Wedding

Eliminating Stress as You Plan Your Wedding
I recently wrapped up wedding plans with my new hubby, and I understand just how nuts things can get. Sometimes it’s the little things – they just accumulate without you realizing it until one day you have an explosion of emotions. That’s perfectly normal, I promise. Here are a few (fun!) ways that will aid in eliminating stress as you plan your wedding day!

Make sure you’re getting enough sleep!

It’s so easy to stay up late working on things (and then have to get up early for work!), or maybe you’re so stressed you just can’t sleep. If you’re having trouble sleeping, try treating yourself to a relaxing night for yourself: take a long hot bath, give yourself a facial mask, and then go to bed.

Drink enough water.

Fact: drinking water can result in a 14% increase in productivity.

There’s a noticeable difference when you’re hydrated. You think clearer, you’re more energized, and you’re in a better mood. It’s well worth it to get in those eight glasses of water a day.

Eat 3 meals a day!

I get it, I honestly do. You get so busy with planning and life that even eating can become a chore. Buy some granola bars to keep in your purse, and try prepping food one night of the week so you can have leftovers for meals. You won’t have to spend the extra time prepping food every day and it will help with your hangry levels.

Exercise is also a huge stress-reliever.

Even if you simply go on a walk; as long as you’re doing some kind of physical activity each day, you’ll think a little clearer and feel a whole lot better.

 

 

Go on a date.

You heard me – get your cute little butt’s out of the house and get some ice cream. Talk about things other than wedding planning. It might be a little difficult to go the entire conversation without something wedding-related coming up, but just do your best. You’ve got this.

It’s incredibly healthy to continue making time for yourselves during this transition together. So, keep going to movies and hanging out with your friends at the beach on weekends.

Those are times to be valued, and they’ll definitely help with eliminating stress as you plan your wedding.

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Write it out!

Journaling has been proven to be therapeutic. Whether you create a word doc or use pen & paper, just lay it all out. Be honest & raw. Don’t try to beat around the bush. This is just you & your thoughts, no one else. You’ll make some new discoveries while you break down your thought processes, and those will reduce your stress levels considerably

 

 

May the games begin!

Have a pillow fight or play with Nerf guns around the house. The catch? You can’t play until you’ve completed X, Y, and Z on your task list.

Assign tasks to friends & family to lighten your load.

They don’t have to be big things; they can be small! Tasks like: someone to pick up your wedding cake if it’s not being delivered, a friend who likes design can create your programs, or someone can pick up specified decorations from the store for you. Every little bit helps.

Try to space appointments out, if possible.

True story, we had every single weekend booked with something, leading up to our wedding day. It. Was. Exhausting. Try not to do that.

Focus on the positives.

If you find yourself going down a dark hole of negativity, grab a pen & paper and begin listing the things you’re thankful for. It’s a good way to turn your mood around and a good reminder that there are more important things in life than that one thing that’s getting to you right now.

Eat some dark chocolate.

I’m serious! Dark chocolate is proven to be a mood-booster and it’s good for your health. It contains the same chemical that your brain creates when you experience falling in love. It literally encourages your brain to release feel-good endorphins. Who knew eliminating stress as you plan your wedding could include something so sweet? Now, go have some dark chocolate!

 

Cuddle!

Another proven way to reduce stress and an action that releases feel-good hormones. It even helps you sleep better. Cuddle away, lovers!

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Talk to God about it.

I’m a pretty big advocate for trusting God in all things, and that most definitely includes wedding planning. I’ve been there and I know first-hand how big that rollercoaster can be. One day you’re on cloud nine and ridiculously excited about the big steps you’re taking together, and that same night you’re in tears because someone was disappointed in your decisions. God can take care of all of it, I promise. He’ll soothe your worried mind and bring you peace – in your soul, relationships, decision-making, and everything in-between. Just knowing He’s cheering for you, that He’s ready to step in at a moment’s notice, and that He always has your back is reassuring. Talking to Him is the absolute best way for eliminating stress as you plan your wedding. Hands down.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

 

I may not know you personally (yet!), but what I do know is that you’re embarking on one of life’s greatest adventures with your best friend, and that is some kind of awesome. Whatever life throws you during this time, just remember that you’ve got each other and that’s all that matters. And, if you ever need to talk about what’s stressing you, my inbox is open anytime.

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Joelle is a wedding photographer from Chicago; she loves romance, a good cup of coffee, God-dates, and watching the sun set with people who mean the most.

 

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Say Yes To The RIGHT Dress- A Guide For Wedding Dress Shopping

Recently, I had an exciting and extremely emotional day shopping for a wedding dress. Not only did I try on wedding dresses but I got to be the bride. I’m so used to creating bridal accessories and apparel that it was such a great change of pace to be on the other side.

From the moment I saw the big window displays, I knew that the experience I was about to have made getting married a reality. Even though I’ve planned our whole wedding and secured almost 80% of the details, going wedding dress shopping made it real. Like really real.

I went into Kleinfeld’s with hopes of figuring out what dress style would look best on my figure. I already knew what I wanted but needed to be sure. (I had sketched the design immediately after he proposed to me, couldn’t help myself.) Needless to say, I didn’t expect it to be as hard as it was to say “No”. Especially when they had almost exactly what I sketched up. What are the chances??

Trying to make a decision on whether to buy or to make was unbearably difficult. I had the bridal moment in the store. They took me to the main room, “jacked” me up, and even gave me a bouquet. I said “Yes” when they asked me. I was surrounded by tears from my family, myself, and from people I didn’t even know. It was totally my dress and as soon as I said “Yes” out loud, I thought “What the f@$! did I just say?”. Everything was pointing to yes, even the freaken price tag. It was a $4,000 dress marked down to $999 because it was the last dress available. The dress was in my size. I would have to take it in only slightly and repair a little bit of the illusion on the back, but no big alterations.

Everything and everyone wanted me to buy that wedding dress.

Within the twenty-some feet back to the dressing room, I realized that if I were to buy this beautiful wedding dress, it wouldn’t actually be MY dress. I wouldn’t have designed it. I wouldn’t have carefully picked out the fabric. I wouldn’t have spent hours drafting the pattern. I wouldn’t have had the late nights sewing and cursing at my machine. It would just be a dress that I bought and I would regret the fact that I didn’t make it.

So… after at least 40 minutes sitting on the dressing room floor discussing what to do with my mother, sister, and 3 phone calls to my fiancé, I decided that the dress was not for me. It was a hard choice, but the right decision… For me anyway.

Each one of us is unique and we all have our own tastes but when choosing your wedding gown, its extremely important that you pick a silhouette that properly accentuates your figure. Some silhouettes are extremely versatile, while others are less forgiving when it comes to hiding problem areas. Let’s be real, we all have those areas we want hidden on this special day.

So, before you make your appointments at Kleinfeld’s or at a cute bridal shop in town OR ask Alyson Nicole to make you a very unique bespoke wedding gown… do your research to figure out the silhouettes and styles you want to try. Keep in mind that its very possible that the dress you think you want is not the dress for you. Take a deep breath because its just not the one. Don’t force yourself into loving a wedding dress either. If you don’t have that moment or you have any hint of doubt, move on.

Below are some of the many options out there.

A-LINE DRESSES are slim on top, fitted at the natural waist, and softly flares away from the body. Flatters most body types by creating a slimming effect while accentuating your waist.

BALL GOWNS have a fitted bodice and a full skirt that can range in volume and length. These classic gowns work with most body types for average height to tall women. It is a very forgiving style due to the skirt hiding everything below your mid-section. If you are a shorter bride, this may not be the dress for you since the bottom might overwhelm your small frame.

MERMAID DRESSES are fitted from the torso down to the knees and then flares out to the floor. The mermaid silhouette is ideal for tall, slender brides and voluptuous brides who want to show off every curve.

 

FIT-AND-FLARE or TRUMPET DRESSES are fitted from chest to mid thigh and then flares out to the bottom. This silhouette is another style that will flaunt your curves in a very flattering way.

EMPIRE DRESSES are fitted at the bust and flare out to the ground. This wedding dress silhouette is an extremely versatile style for most body shapes due to the forgiving high waist line.

SHEATH, SHIFT, OR COLUMN DRESSES have a narrow shape that flows straight down from the neckline to the hem. Depending on the designer, this silhouette can be either be slightly fitted or not at all. This silhouette style is a timeless classic that looks best on brides that have lean frames and soft curves.

Below are some options of necklines, sleeves, and train lengths to consider when wedding dress shopping!

Wedding Dress Silhouette Glossary
Wedding Dress Neckline Glossary
Wedding Dress Sleeve Glossary
Wedding Dress Train Glossary

As mentioned before, the above options are extremely helpful to know when you are wedding dress shopping. There are also a few more things to keep in mind:

  1. BUDGET… Its extremely important to have a set budget that you can afford. It is also very important to let the attendant know your budget!  One of the worst things you could do is fall in love with a dress that is over your budget. Also, keep in mind that alterations (always needed) and taxes should be kept in mind. Alterations are never included.
  2. THE WEDDING DRESS YOU THINK YOU WANT, MAY NOT LOOK GOOD ON YOU and that is OK. That style wasn’t meant for you but there is a wedding dress out there that is. Even if it has to be custom made, cough cough.
  3. HEMLINES DON’T HAVE TO TOUCH THE GROUND you have more options. Tea-length hems stops below the knee but above the ankle, while the mini is usually above the knee and a bolder choice. There are also high-low hemlines that add a little bit of drama to the hemline and can go as high as you want.
  4. DON’T FORGET ABOUT ACCESSORIES they help tie together your look on the big day. Try on different options and see which one(s) you like best. Its possible that you might go for a veil instead of a flower crown but its best to try on options with the dress you are buying. If you can’t find any accessory that strikes your fancy, remember that bespoke accessories, made by yours truly, is another great option.
  5. HAVE FUN! This is the MOST important part of it! This should be an enjoyable experience and no one should stop that. Drink some champagne (if they offer it) or go out to lunch before/after and celebrate the experience. Whatever you do, just enjoy it!

 

I hope this was helpful for your future dress shopping! If you have any questions or would like to start your bespoke wedding dress OR accessories please email me at designs@alysonnicole.com.

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